Not Giving A F**k
I have just finished reading 'the life changing magic of not giving a f**k' by Sarah Knight and you've probably heard of it as it's super popular at the moment.
However it has got me thinking about a few things that I wanted to talk about. Before I was very far into the book, I realised that I already very much have this mindset already and I wasn't sure if that was a good or a bad thing to be honest!
It was definitely interesting and I'm glad that I gave it a read, I'll probably read it again one day but until then it'll look pretty sitting on my bookshelf.
I think it's one of those books that you should read at least once in your lifetime, to maybe give you a different perspective on things.
MY THOUGHTS OUT LOUD
So going back to what I mentioned at the beginning of the blog post, my attitude already seems to be very much like this already.
But I find that this attitude of mine goes from one extreme to the other. On one hand, I really don't give a monkeys (or a f**k as this book would say) about things and am actually super chilled out. However on the other hand, I can care and worry far too much about things that shouldn't matter that much to me.
If there's a social event or something that I don't really feel like going to, then I am more than likely not to go and that doesn't really bother me too much. But I really do feel like it should some times.
Since having my own space with Matt, I have very much become a homebody and as much as I love that, I do need to get out more. So I would like to start putting more time and energy into socialising with friends and visiting family more often.
Then we come to the other side of the scale, and that is where I care too much. Which is normally about silly things that I should not let bother me, but of course I do.
So I was getting super bothered about social media, mainly Instagram. I was getting really fed up with slow growth and a little amount of likes on my photos.
I was also getting really bothered about types of people on Instagram, but I guess that's just because I don't understand them. Why would somebody engage with you/show interest/follow you/you do the same and then they unfollow you a couple of days later. I just sit there thinking to myself 'why would you do that?'
I just don't personally understand how somebody could be fake in this way. I'm sure lots of other people have this same frustration, as Instagram has changed very much recently.
But not very long ago, I decided that these feelings were not worth my time and energy which this book talks about a lot.
There are lots of actually very genuine and lovely people out there, who do take the time to support you on these channels and I support other people too. Therefore they are the people who do deserve my time and my energy.
There are still many things that I worry far too much about, but this stuff is all a work in progress. But this Instagram thing is probably the most recent and I wanted to mention it because in this case, I most definitely should not give a f**k and this book definitely helped out with that.
From this book, the main realisation that I've had is that it is all about getting the right balance of what things you should be spending your time and energy on.